To praise the kid diligent is better than praise clever.

Often listen to some parent scolding their kid:" You are really stupid, so simple a problem how could you can't work out!" Also often heard parents praise their own kid:"You are so clever, in a short while you have finished the homework." These all are false education method, the former give no hope to the kid, very easily frustrate the kid's emotion and wrote off the kid's intelligent wisdom and ability. The latter take originally diligent result as the achievement of intelligence. As time passes, the kid will become fickle.





We say kid is intelligent, what to we mean is that he has talent. In fact the kid's achievement is mainly obtained by diligent labor, all can not be attributed to intelligence. There is an ancient words "the stupid bird flies first", actually it is a sentence to encourage yourself, which make the posterity comprehend its opposite.





The bird flown first, it is not afraid of risk, embody himself spirit to challenge. That exactly is what our kids should have. The person's intelligence quotient is originally mutually equal, "stupid", mostly is what parent force to add to the kid. According to the introduction, Columbia University the psychologistses in New York choose 412 11-year-old children and carried on six experiment, they discovered that:Those praised as an intelligent kid exactly put too much value on examination result and take a good score as the most important. When meet frustration, they will be disappointed and frustrated, do not want to try choosing new and the study task full of challenge; but those are praised study hard and assiduously full of ambition and interest in the study, they think that the intelligence and ability is can be elevated by study, thus they more would like to undertake risk and the study task filled with challenge.





So, while evaluating a kid, you should never use the inborn intelligence to determine their future results. You have to understand, the most valuable mental character is to be willing to make great effort. And with it, the motive produced would be endless.

Let the kid learn to make firm resolve, teach them to arduously delve into it, and that is the main task of home education.